Many children have habits like nail-biting, thumb-sucking or nose-picking. These habits usually go away by themselves. To help your child break a habit, use gentle reminders when your child does the act. Praise your child when he doesn’t.
What are habits?
A habit is a behaviour that your child does over and over again, almost without thinking.
Often, children’s habits might bother or frustrate you, but usually they’re nothing to worry about.
Children’s habits usually involve touching or fiddling with parts of their faces or bodies. Sometimes children are aware of their habits and sometimes they aren’t.
Some common habits in children are:
Why do habits form?
Habits can be comforting for children. Sucking is a good example. As toddlers leave behind the baby stage, habits like thumb-sucking can be a way of soothing stress or anxiety.
Sometimes habits form because children are bored. The behaviour is just how children entertain themselves. For example, children are actually more likely to bite their nails while watching television or when doing nothing at all than when they’re feeling anxious.
Sometimes habits start forming for practical reasons but keep going even when the practical reasons have ceased. For example, young children with colds often pick their noses to clear them. Children who keep picking even after they’ve learned to blow their noses probably have formed habits.
You’re a role model for your child. If you see your child starting a habit, perhaps ask yourself whether it’s one of your own habits. For example, nail-biting might be passed on within a family.
Note: Some toddlers seem to get comfort from some common but slightly unusual behaviour, including body-rocking, head-rolling and head-banging. Most children stop this behaviour by the time they’re 5 years old.
Some behaviour might look like a habit but have a medical cause. For example, if a child suddenly starts pulling or hitting an ear and is also cranky, it might be because he has an ear infection or is teething.
Most habits go away by themselves. However, if your child’s habit is getting in the way of everyday activities, has become embarrassing, or is even causing some harm, you might want to take action.
For example, sucking thumbs or fingers is normal and common. However, your child might be sucking his fingers all the time. If this is getting in the way of talking or eating, or your child is being teased by peers because of it, it could be time to break the habit.
Some tips for breaking habits
Praise will go a long way towards stopping habits. For example, you can say, ‘That’s great. I can hear your words clearly when your fingers aren’t in your mouth’.
When to get help for habits
At about 3 years of age, thumb-sucking and finger-sucking can become a problem for children’s teeth development. If your child is still finger-sucking beyond three years, talk to your paediatrician about using other approaches, like a sticking plaster or a paint-on solution. The solution makes fingers taste yucky.
If you’re concerned that your child’s sucking is causing problems, you could see your dentist about using a palate barrier. This device makes it uncomfortable for children to suck thumbs or fingers.
If you think anxiety might be the reason behind a habit, you might need to deal with the cause of the anxiety. Talk to your General Practitioner (GP) about getting a referral to another health professional. For example, a psychologist can teach your child some simple steps to stop the habit.
Habits in children with additional needs
Children with additional needs might have more habits than typically developing children, or habits that are more pronounced. A psychologist or other specialist experienced with additional needs can help if you’re looking for more information.
Habit or tic?
Tics aren’t habits. Tics are muscle spasms that cause jerky movements that seem out of the child’s control. Examples include repeated blinking, face twitches, and arm or shoulder jerks. Sometimes tics are caused by conditions like Tourette syndrome or by stress.
A child might be able to stop a tic for a short time, but it will come back when the child stops thinking about it. If you feel a tic is distressing for your child, it’s best to seek help from a health care professional. Your GP is always a good place to start.